If you are using natural cleaners those do have a scent. It literally smells so strongly it reaches the entire office. Both conditions could be well managed with conservative therapies, such as nasal steroids, antihistamines, or decongestants. You dont have to turn your life upside down, especially for someone who isnt being reasonable. That usually means they are fooling around or are a snitch. Id ask the co-worker to describe the smell and when she smells it. This was my second reaction (after the first, which was sympathy for OP!). Yes, this. It really is a nightmare and it has caused a host of anxiety problems for me in addition to the physical one because of the aggressive hostility I have received as a result of approaching people about their scents. (Ive had a lot of practice). There might be something in the building that nobody is aware of. If the coworker is just complaining about a scent she doesnt like, I think its sufficient to just treat her comments like the ridiculousness they are. If it is bullying, then standing up for your right not to be verbally abused may help. However, genuine allergic reactions arent necessarily going to manifest in front of their sourceits not all doubling over in the moment. update: how can I turn down training requests from my clients? Thats a good idea! I didnt know the immune system could even distinguish between synthetic and natural molecules, but it sounds fascinating. At this point you have done plenty to make her life easier, and she is being rude. I stopped wearing it to work when you asked me to. or just Nope, not me. and then either ignore the co-worker or go on talking about the TPS reports or whatever. The other day, I was waiting for the elevator and he hurried over, asked me to hold the elevator so he could leave too. First it was people smacking gum, then chewing crunchy foods with their mouth open, and now its almost any audible chewing sounds at all. Im pretty sensitive to smells (my husband says Im part bloodhound; I just say that Im allergic to everything), and my husband, back when we were dating, used the most foul-smelling (to me) soaps and laundry detergent. The brain is, if youll pardon the expression, at the heart of a lot of this. Ive heard the term thrown out as an insult, similar to using the terms granola or crunchy. I try to buy products that are unscented or are minimally scented, but sometimes Im surprised at how strong the fragrance is in some products. Even if she genuinely believes she smells something, it is not her prerogative to treat you like this. I have this problem too. The exaggerated sniffing definitely sounds like she is just being a pain. Yep. On that tip, OP, I find oils to be *awful* not only do they stick to fabricate around you, but the scents they carry are so concentrated. how do you handle being pregnant at work? We go out to eat Mexican food at least once a week, and each time I remind him at least once to chew his chips with his mouth closed. thanks! Even if it is lingering on a car or office chair, I think fixing that would be reaching beyond the point of reasonable accommodation on the OPs part. I definitely see making a reasonable effort to make sure you are not having a negative impact on the people in your work space. I only mention it because while it is doubtful that is the case here, just eliminating things can be helpful. I would sit with all the other allergic/asthmatic people (this was a call center without assigned seats), or in a more isolated area when possible. Whatever brand they use has a very off putting smell. Not only that, but it can also be a sign that your female coworker likes you but is hiding it. At this point, it really feels to me like the coworker is acting like a middle school bully. ), 4. It seems pretty clear to me that she was referring to essential oils as a subset of perfume, and when she said she stopped wearing perfume she stopped wearing the oils too. Yes, I think this is a big difference too. And people tend to become immune to the smell of their own parfume so they wear much more than they need to..which is essentially overkill and obnoxious to everyone around them. Is it because she's sad all the time, I guess? Then talk to the coworker pretty directly, too. This. (LW, you have been so funny in the comments) As I see it, LW is the victim of a bully at this point. I would go to HR myself and complain that I am being harassed by a co-worker who in spite of your having ended wearing the perfume that bothered her is waging a campaign of harassment against you. I also let them know Im ever so grateful they are taking my health concerns seriously. This only hit home for me because it was related to scent sensitivities, and this issue just happened to me today. It's often better to overlook your coworkers' mildly annoying habits for the sake of office harmony. Because you sniffle 24/7 and you dont ever even try to blow your fucking nose.. Its possible the smell is lingering somewhere else or has another cause (from your handbag, or its actually the smell of your car air freshener, or something other than the original perfume). Its actually one of the reasons I left. And the OP is herself sensitive to chemical smells, so the Febreeze would be harming herself. I cant even look at kale now, let alone consume it. Sorry, I might sound rude but I personally think all offices should have a no parfume/no strong aftershave rule because although the wearer of a parfume may love the way it smells, odds are NO ONE ELSE does. ! I apologized for using my lotion and took it home. I worked in a lab, and pretty much every chemical we used suddenly smelled like fish, vomit or both to me. I had another friend that said they also became scent-sensitive when they were having chemo. Its a hippie scentmaybe. If your coworker has Aspergers or some kind of sensory processing disorder, they could go through a doctor to have HR find them accommodations away from other people. Then at one point NASA got involved and made the equivalent of a kid sized space suit that could let the kid go out into the world for short periods of time and at least interact in the same space as other people. 20 years later, Im still not on speaking terms with watermelons. OP, could that be the source? They do have a smelllol. You cant police what people do or wear on their own time. I think Alison has asked us not to read race into letters because it can become derailing and its all speculation. I was a dingaling. When I mentioned it to the host, she looked baffled and said she couldnt smell anything. Do you think you could calmly sit there for another 10 minutes and go into detail about what the smoke and fire will do to you?}. Love the Smelly LW title! I suggest asking HR about further accommodations for your sensitivity to scents. Wash my hands right after, thats not a problem. And it smelled basically like light body sweat. If a coworker takes your idea and uses it as though they came up with it, without . They are everywhere and they are stronger and longer lasting. Granted you should tone it down at work, but I and everyone else is allowed to smell like the body wash or shampoo or hand lotion of their choosing. So shes either exaggerating (because of being a jerk) or to be slightly more charitable shes now got herself into such a state of snittitude that she now genuinely smells patchouli where none exists, e.g., in a mildly lemon-scented body wash. In the case of sniffing, offer your colleague a box of tissues or suggest that she should stay home until she feels better. For those who like it and for whom it is normal it is fine. Oh well then.if she just doesnt like it, thats just too bad. +100 my workplace has those cans of Febreze in the bathroom and while I get the need for them, I do get that, its still awful and headache-inducing for me when someone sprays it. After we stopped that we smelled. Decrease the authority you have in the workplace, over a team or within a project group. Its reached the point where it feels like juvenile bullying and I honestly dont know what to do. You smell something you associate with your Grans house and if you loved her, then its great, but if she was a nasty horrid person and hit you, you might remember that. In high school I had a job at a chain pizza place. That's the end of it? Thanks for giving your more mature (compared to the coworker) perspective here. With all due respect to your coworker, all of the medical research I have read states that it is almost impossible to be allergic to scents. If her coworkers sensitivity is that acute, it is up to management to arrange that shes isolated from scents that bother her, not up to her coworkers to arrange their entire lives around it). Not that they are scented themselves but two coworkers are all natural and I cant be near them for more than 5 minutes. Scent can also be a trigger for good or bad memories. Im one of the rare 20-somethings that doesnt take laundry to my parents house to do, because their washer smells funky and the funk seems to come off on my clothes a little. It still may after a reasonable test end up being something about the OP. If its at the point where its only popping up twice over a few months, and your coworker is upset that you keep bringing it up because she feels shes addressed it, it seems like your coworker has done what she can and it would be a good idea not to bring it up with her anymore. It came on after a bad cold last year. Coworkers complaint was legit, but everything shes done since then is snarky and petty and mean (even if she really can still smell whatever scents OP was wearing a month ago). It might help if the coworker could associate a different scent than the patchouli. The OP writes that she wears scents with patchouli on the weekend. my boyfriends manager told me I could date someone better, new CEO keeps talking about diet and exercise, coworker asks me to cover for him when hes not really off, and more. I got to Let her sniff your jacket or your bag for example. . Asking them not to apply perfume before work, is one thing, to alter their personal life by buying two sets of products or not lighting scented candles in the bedroom or not cooking with curry or garlic or whatever. There was no mention of this in the letter. It is just normal unscented Sure/Tide/Bounce, though, not natural versions of these like youd find in places like Whole Foods. Even on the beach, swimming, walking etc. Does anyone have answer. I will stop wearing perfume for a coworkers benefit; I am not going to change my detergent, stop using my preferred soap, stop using lotion, stop using scented candles/incense/whatever around my own home or replace my furniture or clothing. Your coworkers shoot you irritated looks as you clear your throat (again). At some point, you gotta be able to cope. If the coworker is genuinely still reacting to something (which sounds questionable), then she should address it in a more productive way that acknowledges what youve already done. Flash forward another month later, she accused me of wearing perfume. Privacy Policy and Affiliate Disclosures, our group member has a fragrance sensitivity - and we're supposed to be hugged to check for any scents, my employees husband wont stop calling me to complain about her evaluation, http://www.emilysstomach.com/2013/06/aversions-to-food-and-why-smells-make.html, should I tell my coworker about our colleagues criminal record, I deeply regret joining my companys leadership program, and more, my company is cutting my overworked teams pay as punishment for mistakes. I actually find the smell of patchouli very pleasant, but I do recognize that a lot of people have negative associations with it. Sometimes it helps and sometimes it's so bad my family says something to me. I think at this point and said above in more detail that its now time to do a the Voice type test to find out if the smell is part of the office, or settled in the mind of the coworker to the point that they smell it if its not there. give you the smell test. But this fragrance is Dior! just to watch her reaction. I hope this works out and she backs off, but either way, as a scent-sitive person, thank you so much for going through all this effort. If someone was spraying any form of Febreeze, *I* would go to the Manager. My problem is that this coworker is now complaining constantly about the perfume Im not wearing! Seems like once someone gets a little of what they want, they feel comfortable asking for a little bit more. If I manage to get a load of casual-time-only clothes put together (instead of mixed work and casual), I might throw in a little bit. assigning women extra work to help them, calling out when youre in the ER, and more. Febreeze offers a scent-free allergen reducer version of the spray, which might be helpful if the OPs coworker actually still has a sensitivity and isnt just being rude. I can understand wanting to be considerate, but doesnt one still have the right to wear perfume on the weekends or burn incense? My mom taught me this trick. I think OPs complainer is being kind of a jerk. Ive always had it and its bananas impossible to explain to anyone without coming off as a jerk when Id suddenly fume or snap a pencil under the table or run away from the dinner table. I love lOccitane products, they somehow avoid scent allergies for me. I have a whole mess of oil perfumes and about half of them use patchouli as one of the base scents (I rarely wear them to work though, as in, maybe once every two months and no ones ever said anything). Either way, your coworker is being a jerk. Its unreasonable of me to ask a coworker to adjust her perfume when shes not at work.). 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